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Part 8: Conclusions… The Results Of The 2024 Crossdressing All Gurl Survey

OK gurls, let me share my thoughts...

First of all, thank you to every brave gurl who chose to share her deepest secrets, desires and even pain with us all. You are AMAZING! And a little bit sexy too.

Second, I am no maths whiz or expert analysis, so much of my thoughts here are what struck me most, rather than perhaps statistically significant. And of course I would love your thoughts too.

The idea for the survey came from a book I am writing, a biography of sorts, but told from my femme self, as well as my masculine self. Effectively two authors in one body.

Very quickly I realised I needed to better understand the community in relation to how crossdressing is expressed for me. And asking a few gurlfriends for their thoughts blew up into over 250 respondents.

I had so many questions about myself, and wanted to know if others felt the same way. Turns out, many of us do.

Overall, as much as I want to celebrate the responses, I also feel some melancholy.

Many of us who took the survey were older, no longer teenagers our young adults. Raised in a different era. And as such, in a formative time that was under social and personal judgments that are very different today. This reveals itself in how many of our partners don’t know, or don’t want to know, about our femme sides. And I suspect many more really do know but won’t confront it. It’s too terrible for them.

As GenX Melissa from the UK put it…

‘I love my wife, but I have this ‘side’ to me that I’m finding harder to suppress so I need to be careful that she doesn’t know I am still crossdressing. I wish she would embrace my kink but alas it can’t be.  I’m fearful that it could ruin our marriage and my secret will be out.  Even my closest friends don’t know I cross dress.’

I have ruminated on this for some time and spoke with a hetero GG friend who said ‘Yeah it’s a big ask for a woman to accept her man dressed as a sexy girl’

‘Yeah’, I agreed.

Then I thought.

‘Is it? Is it really?’

And I don’t think that it is.

Especially in the context of a long-term relationship. I agree it is a big ask, even inside a long-term relationship, for someone to transition totally. But crossdressing in the bedroom every so often? I mean isn’t that just roleplay? Or even kinky cosplay?

And almost every girl friend I know has their own kink too. Some I would struggle to fulfill, but I wouldn’t hesitate to make their fantasy real in the context of a romantic long-term relationship. Maybe that’s just me.

So that makes me sad. That we still find ourselves outliers. Our lovers unable to embrace, even occasionally, something that I know is so very important to us all.  

I was also surprised at how many lovers we tend to have. We are not promiscuous on the whole. On reflection, I am not either, but truth be known, I long to be so. It’s part of my fantasy I suppose. So that again makes me a bit sad. I felt that longing in some of the comments too.

Though it has to be pointed out, there is definitely an undercurrent among many of us that we DO want few partners, and to live a monogamous life, so long as we can integrate our femme side.

As millennial Aly from the US put it…

‘I’ve been in the same committed relationship with the first partner I had who discovered my crossdressing. Though I was given an ultimatum to end the relationship or see a gender therapy specialist and now am a transwoman. She bluntly put it that she, didn’t want to date a crossdresser. Whether that was true or a ploy to push me further into feminization, I don’t know and I don’t care. I love being a woman, I love being her fiancé, and I’m so excited to be her wife!’

Wasn’t it delightful to hear how many of us feel so ‘right’ as a woman. Sometimes relaxing, often arousing, but always ‘true’. I resonate with this as I also feel that calm too. This is a very common theme in the comments, how dressing evokes an entirely different personality that can be more kinky, playful and chilled.

Chloe, millennial from the USA said…

‘It is very relaxing for me. I love the feelings it gives me. But it also arouses me, puts me in the mood, and wanting to be treated as a women in bed.’

For me the feel of sensual women’s clothing is indescribably erotic. Most men will never enjoy that feel of nylon, silk, lace, lycra. The first time I wore stockings my mind was blown, a feeling that Amanda, a GenX’er from the US also experienced…

 ‘I was shocked when I tried on mom’s pantyhose as to how different and amazing they felt. Everything after that was the same: shocked and amazed. Over 40 years later I still love it like the first day’

There are so many comments, it’s impossible for me to capture everything. And some gurls left long and detailed comments I plan to turn into individual posts. I need to spend much longer reading and analyzing.

What are you thoughts? I would love to hear.

I will be reading comments left on all the pages in the survey, including this one, and integrating thoughts and feelings into this analysis. Your voice matters! Please do share what it brings up for you. Scroll down the page to the bottom and you can leave your feedback there.

Perhaps what I got out of this process most, was a sense that I am not alone. I resonated with so many comments. Some broke my heart. Some stretched my panties. Oh my!

And so many of you have dropped me lovely messages and I appreciate them all.

Thank you again you wonderful and naughty kittens!

Now I need to figure out how to work all this amazing information into my book!

Jenny X

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Part 6: Sexual Partners… The Results Of The 2024 Crossdressing All Gurl Survey

Who do we like to get it on with, while in our feminine energy….​ Let’s get into the sticky details. What our past, present and future lovers look like. Always while in heels of course. Can I also just state now how much I have adored this whole prcess? Connecting with so many wonderful gurlies and hearing your deepest and darkest secrets. It’s been my honour.

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Part 8: Conclusions… The Results Of The 2024 Crossdressing All Gurl Survey

First of all, thank you to every brave gurl who chose to share her deepest secrets, desires and even pain with us all. You are AMAZING! And a little bit sexy too.Second, I am no maths whiz or expert analysis, so much of my thoughts here are what struck me most, rather than perhaps statistically significant. And of course I would love your thoughts too.

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11 thoughts on “Part 8: Conclusions… The Results Of The 2024 Crossdressing All Gurl Survey”

  1. Loved reading the results, many of which I was able to relate to. Dressing started as a fetish, but has now become so much more. Sometimes on a quiet evening alone I just NEED to dress up, slap on the make-up, and relax and take pics of myself feeling beautiful and femme.
    Thank you for doing this survey, and best of luck with the book
    Ps. Look forward to anymore naughty stories you cum up with too 💋💋💋💋💋

  2. Thank you so much Ms. Raven ! As some of us can probably relate, my dressing and femme expression is cyclical and I’ve been in a down period.
    Reading all of the stories in the survey made me feel not so alone, and proud to be among such beautiful and special women. Thanks again.
    Danielle

  3. I’ve enjoyed so much taking part and reading the comments. It has taken away a lot of the loneliness I have felt it’s so reassuring so many are just like me. Perhaps you could consider chat room on your site I would love somewhere that feels safe to share my thoughts and feelings with others
    Laura xx

  4. I have loved reading your results to your question-air and must thank you again for undertaking and giving your professional apinen . I would like to point out that some of the names on the grafts are confusing ie Boomer xrex and others I have not come across this before. But it has opened my eyes to how different CD enjoy and cope with what life throws there way . Some seem to be able to bring this wonderful part of them in to every day life which is fantastic 😊 but there are other who like myself have a hide it and be careful but still put on that happy 😊 face . Thank you Jenny

  5. Thank you for creating and posting this. Seeing all the responses makes me realize that being CD sissy is somewhat normal. I also realize just how lucky I am to be a sissy girl. So few males will ever get to experience the thrills that we do!

    1. Your words are so true. I too felt the relief that I was way more normal than I thouhght. Since the survey I have shared with many women in my life and not a single one has had anything but encouragement for me. And yes, the men who will never know the feeling of cool nylin carresing shaved legs in ten denier nylons are missing out on SOOOO much pysical pleasure. Oh my! Thank you Candi! JRx

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