The allure of materials, clothing texture and cut, makeup and jewellery is just irresistible to us… but why?
Full disclosure, and you can read my answers to the survey HERE, dressing up for me is overwhelmingly sensual. It is of course sexual, but there is something deeper, something perhaps even spiritual. And nothing on earth deepens that feeling than sharing it intimately with a girlfriend. Oh my…
Why do we dress up?
We do seem split kind of down the middle. Most of us finding sexual pleasure from dressing up, the rest because if makes us feel more feminine. It’s important to remember that the survey is skewed to an older demographic too. I suspect this indicates that for Millennials and older, dressing up was socially steered into being a kink in decades past, where now I suspect it would be explored more as an identity.
At that all important age, we older gurls tended to think that dressing up in our mums underwear, or masturbating wearing panties and stockings was a sexual kink.
Whereas the youngsters of today who are now questioning why they are choosing to wear lacy underwear, well they have a much broader outlook and dramatically reduced social pressure to see their exploration as some odd bedroom kink.
This is a very broad idea and is by no means absolute. And I can even look to myself to see my own out look shift along the feminine spectrum of exploration, pleasure and identity.
Public Crossdressing Frequency
It’s telling how few of us feel we can go out while dressed. It makes me sad that we feel this way.
Desire to Crossdress in Public More Often
And of course, we would LOVE to go out more dressed up, to be seen, admired even, and to make deep connections with people in the world. This I think is part of the melancholy in our community. The deep desire to be seen. To be accepted. To have people reach out and take out hand.
Emotional Response to Clothes Shopping
I had fun with this question as I personally have only ever shopped as a boy. I suspect on occasion the checkout girl knows that the clothes were for me and sometimes I would be lucky enough to get a knowing smile, or even the comment ‘enjoy’. The act of going clothes shopping with a girlfriend is so exhilarating too, even when I am in boy mode. Something unlocks on these adventures and I wish I could do it more.
"It's a very hard thing to unpack. It feels right. I feel more confident, more myself.’
Vanessa Nines, GenX, Regular Crossdresser
“Always makes me feeling happy and an overwhelming feeling of calmness and stress relief”
Naomi, GenX, Occasional Crossdresser
“Because – Its ME”
Lynne, Boomer, Trans, but choosing not to fully transition
“For me crossdressing has a significant degree of escapism. I find it relaxes me and makes me a more patient person.”
Rae, GenX, Regular Crossdresser
“Crossdressing helps me love my body more, or at least deflects from my dislike of my male form. I feel more natural in a feminine state and can focus better.”
Gail, Millennial, Other
“I just love being able to let go. To stop being who everyone thinks I am, and just be me.”
Lore, Millennial, Regular Crossdresser
“I love the feminine feelings I get from such activities. I love the whole process of getting dressed of going through what to wear accessories and shoes”
Lizzy, Boomer, Regular Crossdresser
“It allows escapism from the stress of my life and I also feel a sense of peace whilst dressed, it feels natural somehow.”
Jemima, GenX, Regular Crossdresser
“As the only male in the family, it feels good to change persona and take a break and get away”
Stephanie, GenX, Occasional Crossdresser
“I have never gone out in public in a dress or with wig and makeup, but I do go out in women’s clothing very often, just more ‘neutral’ like sweaters and jeans”
Jillyanne, GenX, Trans, but choosing not to fully transition
“I want to feel feminine, I am exploring if I am a trans or just an occasional cross dresser. I feels great doing my make up and getting better in it”
Nathalie, GenX, Regular Crossdresser
“It relaxes my body, mind and soul. I can leave the daily world worries and indulge on my own self”
Sarah Maddison, GenX, Regular Crossdresser
“I love the way women’s cloths feel and compared to men’s clothes there is so much more you can do to look better”
JAMY LYNN, GenX, Regular Crossdresser
“It makes me feel complete and connected to the inner girl that is always with me, even when I am presenting as a male.”
Tixxa Simmons, GenX, Regular Crossdresser
“I’m very feminine and may well find myself as trans, so expressing myself as female feels more correct to me. Like having a slightly wrong glasses prescription fixed”
Heather, Millennial, Sissy
“I find myself as female to be a very sexy concept. I find validation in being seen/treated as female.”
Jenny Anglia, GenX, Trans, but choosing not to fully transition
“I have wrestled with rationalizing why I dress and I think it’s impossible to completely understand. When I dress, I feel like ME.”
Flora, Boomer, Trans, but choosing not to fully transition
“I live my feminine side”
Suzy Fleur, GenX, Regular Crossdresser
“I feel calm and everything around me doesn’t matter anymore, because I finally had the guts to go out and show everyone how much I love myself”
Chaja, Millennial, Regular Crossdresser
“I obviously like the clothing. Also I like to be treated as a woman.”
Elize, GenX, Transitioned
“I enjoy crossdressing because I like the thing that women get wear and style: hair, earrings, make-up, having breasts/cleavage”
Ashley, Boomer, Occasional Crossdresser
“It’s the only time I ever feel like I’m me! The only time when I’m truly happy.” – Chrissy, Millennial, Trans, but choosing not to fully transition
“I love pleasing my partner. Being dominated.”
Jessica A, Boomer, Occasional Crossdresser
“It gives me some relaxation from my daily life. I enjoy the process of becoming Melissa”
Melissa, GenX, Occasional Crossdresser
“I’ve cross dressed for over 40 years now. I don’t care why all I know is I’m not broken society is.”
Kimberley Hills, GenX, Regular Crossdresser
“I feel there is a part of me that was likely a woman in a past life and there is some nostalgia and arousal in it.”
Liana Glan, Millennial, Other
“I feel like i am sexy as a women and im female clothes overall womens clothes are more sexual and i love that”
Britney, GenX, Occasional Crossdresser
“It makes me feel wonderful and very relaxed”
Kate120, GenX, Occasional Crossdresser
“In my humble opinion; I think some of us do this as a stress relieving mechanism to shed all the responsibilities and expectations heaped upon us by society”
LaurieMz, Boomer, Regular Crossdresser
“I adore womens bodies and the feminine attire”
Crissy, Boomer, Regular Crossdresser
In the next post...
Do you recall your first orgasm when dressed en femme? I do and it shook the world for me. So what did the gurls who took the survey share?
Please do feel free to leave your own comments about these stats below and I will be sure to answer you.
JennyX
Is it enough? Read what individual crossdressers say in the 2025 Survey stories — real voices, real answers.
Explore The 2025 Whole Survey...
Part 1: Hello, Darlings, Here We Are For Our Second Date… The Results Of The 2025 Crossdressing All Gurl Survey
Welcome back gurls. This time, I wanted to ask a few specific questions (more on that in the analysis) and also to lean way more into fantasy. I wanted to lift up your skirt and have a peek inside your panties, you naughty little minx. And I can tell you, some people welcomed that rather delicious voyeuristic probing as they shared with me all their wicked dreams, desires, sometimes even needs. OK gurls, let’s get in bed together and explore each other. Intimately.
Part 2: Shall We Spend A Fantasy Gurl Night Together?
Welcome back gurls. This time, I wanted to ask a few specific questions (more on that in the analysis) and also to lean way more into fantasy. I wanted to lift up your skirt and have a peek inside your panties, you naughty little minx. And I can tell you, some people welcomed that rather delicious voyeuristic probing as they shared with me all their wicked dreams, desires, sometimes even needs. OK gurls, let’s get in bed together and explore each other. Intimately.
Part 3: Colours, Textures, Materials and Clothing… Oh my!
Nothing gets me hotter than black nylons on freshly shaved legs, or satin being caressed along my legs in nylons, or black patent heels, red calf length boots, lace trims, and fabrics that stretch and cling to my body sensually, erotically and femininely. For me, it’s all about the material, the colors, the textures, and the femminine clothing.
Part 4: Who Would You Love To Spend Intimate Time With?
Let me be clear, I firmly believe that we are all on a sexual spectrum. And that we can move along that spectrum. Sometimes slightly. Sometimes dramatically.
Part 5: Why, When And Is It Enough?
We do seem split kind of down the middle. Most of us finding sexual pleasure from dressing up, the rest because if makes us feel more feminine. It’s important to remember that the survey is skewed to an older demographic too. I suspect this indicates that for Millennials and older, dressing up was socially steered into being a kink in decades past, where now I suspect it would be explored more as an identity.
Part 6: My First Orgasm En Femme
I was twelve or thirteen and it was the start of the summer holidays. And this specific summer break would be the time when I got to fully explore my feminine, sensual and erotic self. I don’t recall if I was dressed for my first orgasm, but I do know that I dressed as much as I could that summer, and always managed to play with myself and bring myself to earth shattering orgasms.
Part 7: My First Experience With Someone While Dressed En Femme
“The first time I got fucked while in full girl mode, I couldn’t believe how natural it felt. I finally felt like myself.” Chloe, Millennial, Sissy
Part 8: Fantasy time, when wishes DO come true!
I don’t mind admitting it. I was very young when I first had fantasies about having a fairy godmother show up and turn me into a gorgeous girl. If that happened, I could wear pretty frilly dresses, stockings, high heels, make-up, and jewelry every day, feeling confident that I would be accepted everywhere I went.
Part 9: What Advice Would We Offer Our Younger Self?
This final question is perhaps the most important. If we could trun back time, what would we do differently? There we some wildcards, like ‘Buy bitcoin’, but almost all responses were saying the same thing as Daisy, ‘Follow your femme dreams and don’t push your feminine energy away. Find your community and you will be more free than you can imagine.’
Part 10: Conclusions
And in conclusion…I saved one question for the end as it may be important, or maybe irrelevant. In my industry (creative industries), I noticed many of us have ADHD, which seems to put me, and others, at some odds with neurotypical people.I then wondered if that had any bearing on my inner femme, my kink, my girlie self? So I asked in the survey…
I live for all things feminine—stockings, heels, scarlet nails, and above all, the intoxicating touch of another woman. A translesbian muse and unapologetic hedonist, I share my most divine and wicked misadventures in words and now as a podcaster too. All gurls welcome. You are gorgeous. Just like me. xxx
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2 thoughts on “Part 5: Why, When And Is It Enough?”
I cannot wait for your next survey…please! And pleeze include New Zealand there are girlz down here!
Thanks and love to you Miss Jenny!
Thank you so much Sarah, such a thrill to hear from you. Yes I am just doing the next survey now as well as a re-analysis of the 2025 survey as we have triple the data now. Watch this space.
JRx