Welcome back gurls...
Ever since the last survey, I’ve been eager to ask you all this question. If we were to spend an evening together, what would we do?
Personally, I think we’d have a lot of fun and get a little big naughty. No. A lot naughty.
But I’m curious to know how others feel.
Interestingly, 2% of people said they wouldn’t want to spend time with me or take things further.
Meanwhile, 17.4% just wanted some girl time, like shopping, having coffee, chatting, doing our nails, or maybe dressing up a bit. It’s fun, but not too wild.
However, a bulging 80% were interested in taking things further, exploring each other’s fantasies, and having a dinvine and delurious play time in the bedroom. The speaks to, at least with the people who took this survey (again being mainly milenial and older) connecting crossdressing as a sexual catalyst.
I have to say, I’m definitely in that 80%.
I love spending time with my girlfriends and exploring our fantasies together eyes, fingers, tongues, satin, lycra, heels, nails…
Oh I may faint!
The comments form the gurlies below are especially interesting, where we share our deepest desires and dreams. Some are very detailed, others are more touching, and sometimes a melancholic.
Adter the comments I offer up my thoughts and analysis from reading them, and I would love to hear yours too, so please do comment.
Fantasy Time With Me and You
Your thoughts, fantasies and desires...
'My wife is rather vanilla and I’m a total deviant'
‘Never experienced a night out with a fellow C/D so would like to experience that and also what may happen behind closed doors too. This would be exciting and something that I would cherish too.’
‘It would be a great opportunity to experience IT, for the first time.’
‘Just after friendship. It would be nice to talk to someone like me.’
‘I would love the girly time but would like to explore things deeper.’
Let’s not force anything but in the moment who knows where it will lead.
‘It would be nice to be able to explore my fantasies with someone with the same passion and interests that I have.’
‘I would want you to turn our dinner into a plan to have people who I know on the surrounding tables. When we get to your room you immediately tie me up and then take lots of pictures before inviting a group of guys that want to use me in every way imaginable, from double penetration to throat-fucking.’
‘Well, assuming that my wife was ok with it, it would be a new experience and one that I would increasingly like to experience (as my wife is rather vanilla and I’m a total deviant).’
‘Being femme allows me to connect with people more immediately than in guy form. I love the connections I make with people. I also love touch, even if it is just sensual and not sexual. Sexual experiences I only share with people I feel extremely comfortable with and only with a permission slip from my wife. But when I do, it opens a whole entire world of pleasure.’
‘I want to be fully feminized and treated like a total submissive.’
‘Maybe go to a restaurant and have dinner then maybe try pegging.’
‘Going out dressed together after styling each other and doing each other’s makeup. Going to a pub having some drinks and chat and then heading off to a club and party well and enjoy the company. Once the alcohol starts to hit, we head back to my place and unleash the repressed sexual feelings and enjoy the night and wake up cuddling next to each other.’
‘If my fiancé/mistress was present and allowed the sexual stuff then I’m for it. But I am loyal to her.’
‘Me submitting to you. Maybe as a maid serving you.’
‘I would love to enjoy lesbian lovemaking.’
‘I would love to get a room and see where the night takes us. I would love to be dominated.’
‘I just want to be more girly.’
‘The girly time would be amazing. But, getting to truly play while dressed would be a dream come true.’
‘I rarely get the opportunity to get all prettied up for someone who is not trying to fuck me.’
‘Would love to try more, with another cute crossdresser.’
‘I want to experience my femininity fully, from dressing up, to giving orally and being penetrated.’
‘A night out would be amazing but being able to spend time with another girl, whether that is sitting around in or nighties after drinks, would just be wonderful. Having that time with someone else like me.’
‘Femininity is inherently attractive, and a night of getting dressed for girly time is just the prologue. Plus, it’s always more fun to show off what I’m wearing underneath.’
‘I would love to explore that feminine side of my sexuality while dressed up.’
‘I’m in a great relationship so exploring likes and dislikes plus ideas through chat and friendship fun sounds better.’
‘I have never been with another girly so would be very interested in exploring more intimately :)’
‘Getting all dolled up and be taken out, maybe get hit on by some men then go back and have fun with just gurls.’
‘I guess it would depend on how the date goes. Lizzy is very sensual and loves adventure!!’
‘Going out would be great but to share more intimately in conversations and perhaps other things would be even better.’
‘I really enjoy feminine connection, sharing, touching, kissing and playing slowly and sensually. Being dressed up with another gorgeous girl is so intoxicating.’
‘I want and explore that side that has been hidden for too long.’
‘I have not been as active as I wish I could have been in this area and I am afraid that I have missed out.’
‘I would love to go out fully dressed up and live a night as a woman to the full extent.’
‘Private, intimate, gurl time, getting dolled up with my gurlfriend is the absolute ultimate time.’
‘I enjoy the kink of crossdressing and have a stocking fetish. Sex is a big part of the fantasy.’
‘If I was to be out and dressed with another gurl then I would want to actually go for it, to feel the ultimate feminine thrill.’
‘Being the feminine partner in a same-sex relationship, I am able to experience sex as a woman. However, I don’t have anyone like me that I know that I can talk to about dressing and being trans.’
‘I need a the right girl to take control and tease out my fantasies.’
‘I have never been intimate while fully in girl mode, so that idea is very appealing.’
‘I would want a girl to encourage me to be a full sissy girl for the night and feel what it is to be a real girl.’
‘I’d be honored. I might be an old dog but I AM trainable and WILLING!’
‘To be dressed up nice and have a girlie evening would be wonderful, but I would absolutely love some intimate girlie time together too x’
‘I love the feeling of sexy things, and sharing it with someone else would be amazing. Married with kids leaves little time to play and I've just really started to explore this side and become kinkier with my wife. It would be interesting to explore more of my girl side and figure what I really like and what I fantasize about.’
‘Very few people know the girl inside me, so to explore that with someone, both on an intellectual / conversational level, as well as a deeper intimate level, would be wonderful.’
‘I’d love to get beautiful and worship a beautiful woman like you.’
‘Imagining myself dressed as a princess or a bunny being pegged by my mistress.’
‘The last time I went out dressed, dolled up from head to toe, I didn’t just indulge in regular conversations with girls, but went home with a man and got my tush toasted by his and his friends wonderful cocks.’
‘I would love to explore my feminine side and it would mean everything to me. I’ve always wanted to be able to dress up whenever and wherever so I can feel free and be myself. I’m a beginner in this but eager to go deeper into my feminine identity. I would Just love the support of an actual friend that I can feel comfortable and confident with’
‘It has been my fantasy to have a threesome while I am Jasmine. Being a female with other females has been my ultimate fantasy.’
‘I would love to explore each others body and worship yours.’
‘I would die for the chance to be dressed as the sissy slut that I long to be and have a room full of men and women humiliate me and use me as a dirty little whore doing anything they wished. I would have the greatest pleasure in serving the women however they saw fit, I’d like videos and pictures taken through the whole ordeal.’
‘Getting to know you more and the lifestyle more, is more important than a tumble.’
‘It would be a dream to share my Sissy experiences with cute women.’
“For many years I’ve fantasised about meeting up with a like-minded, attractive crossdresser.’
‘I used to think I would be the ‘top’ in such an arrangement, but the longer my fantasies continued, I realised I might enjoy being a switch.’
‘In the past three years I’ve crossdressed completely, with makeup a few times, and come to realise that I want to be dominated by a convincing, attractive crossdresser. I want to be a submissive lesbian.’
‘I’m not gay. I’m just a transvestite.’
‘There is something incredibly erotic about two gurls kissing, touching, undressing each other to some sexy lingerie, and explore each other’s bodies.’
‘I would like to be dominated and feminized by 2 girls.’
‘I’m open to the fantasy part but I crave girly time.’
‘Love to be a little CD slut. So I would love for you to treat me that way. Have your way with me and maybe bring some friends.’
‘Just being out dressed as myself, having a nice girly time, trip to the bathroom to fix the makeup, maybe some shopping and brunch.’
‘I would like to be a complete slut and bottom for some massive cocks that I would worship.’
‘I have a lot of fantasies but where I live, I’m not likely to find anyone to explore it with.’
‘Love the openness of female interaction that is not stifled by male bravado.’
‘Happily married to understanding wife.’
‘I really want to experience not only what is like to be a girl in public but also in the bed.’
‘I’m mainly looking for friends to hang out with and share pictures with.’
‘I would love to have a girly night with someone I could fully trust and connect with. I am very amateur at crossdressing, so getting ready I would need a lot of their help, but I feel like that would be a part of the fun. Then having a night out, which I have not done yet, would be an exhilarating experience. The idea of returning to a hotel room together to continue to share the night together once again sounds like a cherry on top of an already amazing night. What exactly would we do? I don’t really know, but I would be pretty open to just about anything as long as we continue to share a sensual connection. Stockings would for sure have to stay on because the feeling of them sliding together is just too amazing.’
‘I’m mostly interested in crossdressing due to the humiliation and degradation factor.’
‘I don’t often have experiences like this and I would love to be girly with other girls.’
‘Crossdressing for me means more than one thing, so having a night of just us girls as a friendship and then an opportunity to explore later on would be a great day.’
‘I dress for primarily sexual reasons.’
‘I’d love a girls night out where we try to hook up with men.’
‘I’d love to try on different outfits and play with makeup.’
‘Always wanted to have a girls night. my ex used to have girls night with her sister and 2-3 other women would love to have been included as one of the girls.’
‘I’m an old fashioned gurl, that is ok, with taking things slow, diner, a bottle of wine, and good conversation.’
‘I’m introverted and I’m not really at any place in life to be going out as a girl.’
‘I would love to have some girl friends that would help me be more passable and then use me (peg or make me service them or make me service men with them) make me try on different clothes and make me wear a chasity device.’
‘I’m very wary and cautious about people I’ve just met. Nothing personal. I have PTSD, so I would have to know a person very, very well and trust them to be comfortable enough to spend time with them in person.’
‘It would mean the absolute world to me because I don’t get the girl time I truly want in life’
‘I would love to be able to be myself, just chatting as a girl. But I would shy away from the more fun stuff as I would be too self-conscious of my looks. I would want to look perfect, perfect make-up, perfect body, just a perfect sexy look… and I just don’t have enough confidence for that.’
‘I will be available to anything you want to do.’
‘A chance to meet s group of guys would be special.’
‘I would love to go out with and be treated like any regular girl. The private room time would be as two lesbians having fun exploring each other. If inclined, then some bondage and spanking would be included if all consented.’
‘My affinity for crossdressing is very much tied to sexual fantasy so exploring that would be more fun for me.’
‘I would love to be dressed as a Super Sissy Baby Girl and Humiliated in Public.’
‘I would like to explore my sexuality with another gurl.’
‘I would love forced feminization by a girlfriend and then be turned into her lesbian lover.’
‘You make me your secretary and dress me tight pencil skirt and make me obey all your commands.’
‘To explore my wildest dreams would take the whole night. A night of naughty tasks, breaking borders and explore everything to finally be the sex hungry slut I am.’
‘An opportunity to just truly explore all of my deepest darkest fantasies would be amazing. A safe space to dress up and do my makeup and just be a girl for a bit sounds incredible!’
‘To be able to explore my fantasies with someone else and be able to take them to the next level.’
‘I already get to regularly explore my fantasies with my amazing fiancee, an awesome genetic girl who is both accepting and enthusiastic about my crossdressing. I don’t know any other crossdressers socially though, it would be great to have some girly time with someone who understands the experience from the same perspective that I do. Just doing some girly activities and chatting would be awesome.’
‘I just want to be a girl! I want girlfriends to hang out with and do girl things with!’
‘Dressing up would mean so much in itself! Having girly time and chat would sound exciting. This experience would just open me up to more possibilities and opportunities.’
‘If we were getting a room, it would be nearly an understood that there would be some play involved.’
‘It would be a first time for me being out and doing things in the open. So I would like to take it slow.’
‘Well I just get so horny dressed, and I adore gurl cocks so…’
‘I want to explore this side of me more and I want help to become as feminine as possible.’
‘I find the idea of two CD’s exploring their girl on girl fantasies incredibly sensual and intoxicating. Although I love cis women, I think that only another CD truly understands the depth of passion and intensity that another CD feels when transformed.’
My Analysis Of The Comments...
OK gurls, this survey is more revealing than peeking up my skirt to see if I am wearing panties (yes, I am of course, black lace ones). Comments range from sweet and innocent girly bonding to full-blown, “bend me over and take me ” sexual exploration! Let’s explore shall we?
Girly Time: The Ultimate Fantasy
‘Just being out dressed as myself, having a nice girly time, trip to the bathroom to fix the makeup, maybe some shopping and brunch.’
Before we even talk about what’s happening after hours, there’s a deep, heartfelt longing for just being girly. The glam, the makeup, the outfit changes, the shopping, the giggling over wine – it’s a universal desire among these crossdressers. It’s not just about slipping into something lacy; it’s about feeling feminine, sharing that femininity, and finally having a space to be that version of themselves without judgment.
Connection Over Carnality (Or Sometimes Both!)
‘A night out would be amazing but being able to spend time with another girl, whether that is sitting around in or nighties after drinks, would just be wonderful. Having that time with someone else like me.’
While plenty of these answers make it clear that sexual connection is definitely on the table – spread wide open in some cases – there’s also a huge emphasis on connection. Some just want a friend who gets it, someone to sit around in nighties with, swapping makeup tips and deep thoughts. But of course, many wouldn’t mind that friendship coming with a little benefits package.
Power Play & Submission: Ooh, Mistress, Yes!
‘I would love to get a room and see where the night takes us. I would love to be dominated.’
Listen, dominance and submission are strong themes here. So many of these responses talk about being feminised, controlled, and used. From being made into a maid to full-on public humiliation, the idea of surrendering to another’s will while dressed is a recurring (and deliciously naughty) fantasy. For some, crossdressing is just the first step in a larger power exchange. Personally, I think this is one very powerful self expression some of us feel. It’s the ultimate ‘letting go’. Dominance does not float my boat, but the idea of a girl taking control and WANTING me ‘as I am’, well that’s the hole that I continually try to get filled.
Lesbian Fantasies & Girl-on-Girl Energy
‘In the past three years I’ve crossdressed completely, with makeup a few times, and come to realise that I want to be dominated by a convincing, attractive crossdresser. I want to be a submissive lesbian.’
If there’s one thing that stands out, it’s that being dolled up in heels and silk isn’t just about looking cute—it’s about feeling feminine, and for many, that means experiencing intimacy from a woman’s perspective. There’s a strong attraction to lesbian dynamics, whether it’s making out with another CD, being a submissive to a dominant woman, or fully diving into the “I want to be treated like a woman in every way possible” mindset. This is to strong for me and others that I identify, when en-femme, as a trans-lesbian. It feels right. It feels sexy. And when I am in stockings and heels, it’s totally me.
The Thrill of the Night Out
‘I would love to go out fully dressed up and live a night as a woman to the full extent.’
It’s not all bedroom bondage and lipstick-stained sheets. A major fantasy is simply going out, being seen, being flirted with, having a romantic dinner, and getting to experience nightlife as a woman. And let’s be honest – there’s something sexy about slipping into that gorgeous dress, stepping into the world, and knowing that anything could happen.
The Secret Self That Needs to be Set Free
‘Dressing up would mean so much in itself! Having girly time and chat would sound exciting. This experience would just open me up to more possibilities and opportunities.’
Many responses have an underlying emotional weight – there’s a longing for validation, acceptance, and just the chance to be the person they’ve always felt they are inside. Whether they’re deeply closeted, only dress occasionally, or have supportive partners, the fantasy of full, uninhibited femininity is intoxicating. Some feel like they’ve “missed out” on their girl time, and others feel like it’s a side of them they haven’t had the space to truly explore.
Yes, Some of Us Are Just VERY Kinky (And We Love It!)
‘Imagining myself dressed as a princess or a bunny being pegged by my mistress.’
Let’s not ignore the fact that some of these fantasies are super slutty, and I say that with love! The gangbangs, the public humiliation, the pegging, the cuckold fantasies, the desire to be “used” – this is some high-level kink energy, and honestly, I adore it all. There’s a real craving for pushing boundaries and living out the most forbidden desires. Again, to fully let go.
Final Thoughts, Lover Gurls
This part of the survey isn’t just about who wants to get tied up and who wants to go for brunch in nylons (though, ideally, both happen in the same weekend). It’s about yearning—for femininity, for validation, for companionship, for sexual intimacy, acceptance and liberation, and for a place where we can truly release.
These fantasies all share one thing: the craving for freedom to be the gurlie we dream of being. 💋
In the next post...
Next we deep dive into what drives me and so many other gurls wild… textures, materials, colours and clothes. I may faint!
Please do feel free to leave your own comments about these stats below and I will be sure to answer you.
JennyX
Plan your ultimate gurl night? Get inspired by real crossdressers in the 2025 Survey — including Stella’s perfectly choreographed Stella time.
Explore The 2025 Whole Survey...
Part 1: Hello, Darlings, Here We Are For Our Second Date… The Results Of The 2025 Crossdressing All Gurl Survey
Welcome back gurls. This time, I wanted to ask a few specific questions (more on that in the analysis) and also to lean way more into fantasy. I wanted to lift up your skirt and have a peek inside your panties, you naughty little minx. And I can tell you, some people welcomed that rather delicious voyeuristic probing as they shared with me all their wicked dreams, desires, sometimes even needs. OK gurls, let’s get in bed together and explore each other. Intimately.
Part 2: Shall We Spend A Fantasy Gurl Night Together?
Welcome back gurls. This time, I wanted to ask a few specific questions (more on that in the analysis) and also to lean way more into fantasy. I wanted to lift up your skirt and have a peek inside your panties, you naughty little minx. And I can tell you, some people welcomed that rather delicious voyeuristic probing as they shared with me all their wicked dreams, desires, sometimes even needs. OK gurls, let’s get in bed together and explore each other. Intimately.
Part 3: Colours, Textures, Materials and Clothing… Oh my!
Nothing gets me hotter than black nylons on freshly shaved legs, or satin being caressed along my legs in nylons, or black patent heels, red calf length boots, lace trims, and fabrics that stretch and cling to my body sensually, erotically and femininely. For me, it’s all about the material, the colors, the textures, and the femminine clothing.
Part 4: Who Would You Love To Spend Intimate Time With?
Let me be clear, I firmly believe that we are all on a sexual spectrum. And that we can move along that spectrum. Sometimes slightly. Sometimes dramatically.
Part 5: Why, When And Is It Enough?
We do seem split kind of down the middle. Most of us finding sexual pleasure from dressing up, the rest because if makes us feel more feminine. It’s important to remember that the survey is skewed to an older demographic too. I suspect this indicates that for Millennials and older, dressing up was socially steered into being a kink in decades past, where now I suspect it would be explored more as an identity.
Part 6: My First Orgasm En Femme
I was twelve or thirteen and it was the start of the summer holidays. And this specific summer break would be the time when I got to fully explore my feminine, sensual and erotic self. I don’t recall if I was dressed for my first orgasm, but I do know that I dressed as much as I could that summer, and always managed to play with myself and bring myself to earth shattering orgasms.
Part 7: My First Experience With Someone While Dressed En Femme
“The first time I got fucked while in full girl mode, I couldn’t believe how natural it felt. I finally felt like myself.” Chloe, Millennial, Sissy
Part 8: Fantasy time, when wishes DO come true!
I don’t mind admitting it. I was very young when I first had fantasies about having a fairy godmother show up and turn me into a gorgeous girl. If that happened, I could wear pretty frilly dresses, stockings, high heels, make-up, and jewelry every day, feeling confident that I would be accepted everywhere I went.
Part 9: What Advice Would We Offer Our Younger Self?
This final question is perhaps the most important. If we could trun back time, what would we do differently? There we some wildcards, like ‘Buy bitcoin’, but almost all responses were saying the same thing as Daisy, ‘Follow your femme dreams and don’t push your feminine energy away. Find your community and you will be more free than you can imagine.’
Part 10: Conclusions
And in conclusion…I saved one question for the end as it may be important, or maybe irrelevant. In my industry (creative industries), I noticed many of us have ADHD, which seems to put me, and others, at some odds with neurotypical people.I then wondered if that had any bearing on my inner femme, my kink, my girlie self? So I asked in the survey…
I live for all things feminine—stockings, heels, scarlet nails, and above all, the intoxicating touch of another woman. A translesbian muse and unapologetic hedonist, I share my most divine and wicked misadventures in words and now as a podcaster too. All gurls welcome. You are gorgeous. Just like me. xxx
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