This final question had an almost singular voice. Be brave, do it now, and make the difficult choice. Do not wait.
What We’d Tell Our Younger Selves
This final question is perhaps the most important. If we could trun back time, what would we do differently? There we some wildcards, like ‘Buy bitcoin’, but almost all responses were saying the same thing as Daisy, ‘Follow your femme dreams and don’t push your feminine energy away. Find your community and you will be more free than you can imagine.’
Of course, for some of us, it’s easy to say ‘embrace your truth and share with the world’. For others, it’s, well complicated. For me it’s complicated too, so I have empathy by the bucket load.
Here are my thoughts…
Regret & Advice to Younger Selves
A recurring theme was regret over lost time spent in fear or hiding. Many os us gurls urged their younger selves (and new crossdressers) to embrace their identity earlier and not be held back by societal judgment. I feel this acutely too and it brings a deep sense of melancholoy.
Confidence & Self-Acceptance
Many of us wish wey had embraced our femininity sooner too, and not been afraid to be seen. Phrases like “Be more confident” and “Don’t hide so much” appeared repeatedly across generations.
Generational Differences & Changing Attitudes
We elders (Gen X and Boomers) grew up in a time when being feminine was risky and needed to remain hidden, while younger generations (Millennials and Gen Z) are more open and unapologetic about their identities.
The Importance of Community & Support
Many of us shared about the need for safe spaces and supportive people, reinforcing that finding a community is essential for self-expression. Connection and a place to be true to ourselves is what so may of us want so profoundly.
What advice would you offer your younger self?
'Become your true self earlier. I really did not embrace Jasmine until I was in my 40s.'
Jasmine (Gen X, Sissy)
“Be brave. Be more confident and share it more.”
Sonia (Millennial, Occasional Crossdresser)
“Be free and slutty without worry about how others feel about it.”
Erintv2 (Gen X, Occasional Crossdresser)
“Be more brave.”
Elena Christina (Gen X, Occasional Crossdresser)
“Be more confident.”
Suzy Fleur (Gen X, Regular Crossdresser)
“Be more confident and don’t hide so much. Me safer on the internet.”
Crossdresser Sophie (Gen X, Occasional Crossdresser)
“Be more honest with my wife from the get-go.”
Stephanie (Gen X, Occasional Crossdresser)
“Be more open about my feelings. Don’t be afraid to share them with someone. But things are different today. You know what they say about hindsight.”
Sheryl (Boomer, Regular Crossdresser)
“Be open when dating so you don’t need to live a secret life.”
Vivian (Gen X, Occasional Crossdresser)
“Be outgoing more.”
Jessica A (Boomer, Occasional Crossdresser)
“Be sure to properly vet people before agreeing to meet them.”
Lola (Gen X, Trans but choosing not to fully transition)
“Be your true self. Don’t keep everything bottled up.”
Stephanie (Gen X, Occasional Crossdresser)
“Be yourself.”
Dianne (Boomer, Occasional Crossdresser)
“Be yourself and not ashamed of your fetish.”
Crissy (Boomer, Regular Crossdresser)
“Be yourself and serve girls.”
Sasha (Millennial, Admirer)
“Be yourself, share your secret, and find a friendly community.”
Loni (Boomer, Regular Crossdresser)
“Be yourself! Don’t be afraid to try new things.”
Maren (Boomer, Sissy)
“Be yourself, enjoy your feminine self.”
Marsha (Boomer, Regular Crossdresser)
“Become my full feminine self ASAP. Don’t wait for a supportive friend or lover.”
Garnet (Gen X, Other)
“Come out and transition.”
Mary (Gen Z, Occasional Crossdresser)
In the final post...
We will bring the results together for a final analysis, plus one last and potentialy revealing result.
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Read individual stories from the community: explore the 2025 Survey hub and meet real crossdressers like Veronica Vile and Aanya.
Explore The 2025 Whole Survey...

Part 1: Hello, Darlings, Here We Are For Our Second Date… The Results Of The 2025 Crossdressing All Gurl Survey
Welcome back gurls. This time, I wanted to ask a few specific questions (more on that in the analysis) and also to lean way more into fantasy. I wanted to lift up your skirt and have a peek inside your panties, you naughty little minx. And I can tell you, some people welcomed that rather delicious voyeuristic probing as they shared with me all their wicked dreams, desires, sometimes even needs. OK gurls, let’s get in bed together and explore each other. Intimately.

Part 2: Shall We Spend A Fantasy Gurl Night Together?
Welcome back gurls. This time, I wanted to ask a few specific questions (more on that in the analysis) and also to lean way more into fantasy. I wanted to lift up your skirt and have a peek inside your panties, you naughty little minx. And I can tell you, some people welcomed that rather delicious voyeuristic probing as they shared with me all their wicked dreams, desires, sometimes even needs. OK gurls, let’s get in bed together and explore each other. Intimately.

Part 3: Colours, Textures, Materials and Clothing… Oh my!
Nothing gets me hotter than black nylons on freshly shaved legs, or satin being caressed along my legs in nylons, or black patent heels, red calf length boots, lace trims, and fabrics that stretch and cling to my body sensually, erotically and femininely. For me, it’s all about the material, the colors, the textures, and the femminine clothing.

Part 4: Who Would You Love To Spend Intimate Time With?
Let me be clear, I firmly believe that we are all on a sexual spectrum. And that we can move along that spectrum. Sometimes slightly. Sometimes dramatically.

Part 5: Why, When And Is It Enough?
We do seem split kind of down the middle. Most of us finding sexual pleasure from dressing up, the rest because if makes us feel more feminine. It’s important to remember that the survey is skewed to an older demographic too. I suspect this indicates that for Millennials and older, dressing up was socially steered into being a kink in decades past, where now I suspect it would be explored more as an identity.

Part 6: My First Orgasm En Femme
I was twelve or thirteen and it was the start of the summer holidays. And this specific summer break would be the time when I got to fully explore my feminine, sensual and erotic self. I don’t recall if I was dressed for my first orgasm, but I do know that I dressed as much as I could that summer, and always managed to play with myself and bring myself to earth shattering orgasms.

Part 7: My First Experience With Someone While Dressed En Femme
“The first time I got fucked while in full girl mode, I couldn’t believe how natural it felt. I finally felt like myself.” Chloe, Millennial, Sissy

Part 8: Fantasy time, when wishes DO come true!
I don’t mind admitting it. I was very young when I first had fantasies about having a fairy godmother show up and turn me into a gorgeous girl. If that happened, I could wear pretty frilly dresses, stockings, high heels, make-up, and jewelry every day, feeling confident that I would be accepted everywhere I went.

Part 9: What Advice Would We Offer Our Younger Self?
This final question is perhaps the most important. If we could trun back time, what would we do differently? There we some wildcards, like ‘Buy bitcoin’, but almost all responses were saying the same thing as Daisy, ‘Follow your femme dreams and don’t push your feminine energy away. Find your community and you will be more free than you can imagine.’

Part 10: Conclusions
And in conclusion…I saved one question for the end as it may be important, or maybe irrelevant. In my industry (creative industries), I noticed many of us have ADHD, which seems to put me, and others, at some odds with neurotypical people.I then wondered if that had any bearing on my inner femme, my kink, my girlie self? So I asked in the survey…
I live for all things feminine—stockings, heels, scarlet nails, and above all, the intoxicating touch of another woman. A translesbian muse and unapologetic hedonist, I share my most divine and wicked misadventures in words and now as a podcaster too. All gurls welcome. You are gorgeous. Just like me. xxx
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