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Meet The Author: Alexa Martinez, aka Lady Alexa

I decided to run a series of interviews with authors who write for our community and have been thrilled to read their insights, responses and personal stories. Please do read their books.

Now, let’s meet Alexa Martinez, aka Lady Alexa.

Alexa Martinez is an author and an FLR lifestyle blog writer from London England. She writes about forced feminisation and female-led relationships under her scene name and pen name Lady Alexa. Alexa’s blog, www.ladyalexauk.com, is a true-life account of living in a female-led relationship with her feminised husband and the successes and the challenges she faces following this lifestyle.

When did you start writing books and what was your inspiration for it?
I started out with my blog as I was inspired to write about my behind closed doors FLR (female-led relationship) and how I encouraged my husband into female clothes and routines around the home. We had searched online and only found porn or sites for male fetish and wanted something that was real. I began to add short fictional stories along with the true-life posts. From this I progressed into books.

What was your first book that you wrote?
The first book I published was called A Sister-In-Law’s Law in 2017. I updated it significantly in 2022 as my writing had improved and I withdrew the original and republished it as Samantha’s Law,. It’s about a couple who fall on hard times and go to live with the wife’s sister who puts the husband to work as her housemaid to pay his way.

Why did you decide to become an author?
I’ve always liked writing and found that the blog led to me wanting to let my imagination run a whole lot more. I ended up enjoying writing the fiction more than the blogging.

What has been the high point of your career?
When I realised I had become an established erotica author with a regular income.

What are your favourite stories to write?
I love to write about strong alpha women who force men to submit to them, especially to being feminised. I will often make the submissive male the protagonist in my stories but there will always be an extreme version of me in the story making things happen. And I always like to make the submissive male into a humiliated girly sissy who serves the mistress. I find this delicious.

What is your favorite book that you have written?

I enjoyed writing The Female Species. It was a break for me to do something different a – little science fiction and fantasy but not so much that it might not be almost true. I also liked A Very Dominant Woman as this was me fantasising about being that dominant woman.

What is your best selling book, and do you know why it sells so well?
My best selling book is How I Feminised My Husband. I think it sells so well because the title makes the subject clear and the cover image supports this with a photo of my husband wearing a pretty pink miniskirt (face onscured). He has very good legs. I think people like the fact it’s real life and could really happen to anyone when the stars align as they did for us.

How do you keep your ideas and stories fresh?
I get new ideas from a number of sources. Some are mine and are what I would want, some come from my husband, some come from our personal experiences and some come from people who write to me.

Do you have a writing routine?
I write during the day, usually mornings but if I’m busy on something else, I’ll do my writing in the afternoon. I’ll usually spend 3 or 4 hours a day writing at some stage.

How feminized my husband by lady alexa.

What’s the secret to a strong title and great cover art?

In this genre, I’ve found the title needs to be direct about what’s inside. Readers don’t want subtlety in a title. Some of my early titles like A Sister–In-Law’s Law and The Girl Within were clever but not descriptive of the content. It was titles like A Sissy Cuckold Husband, Stepmother’s Sissy and Lockdown Feminization that got the attention of my readers. And How I Feminised My Husband of course.

I tried many variations of cover art before finding the key which was a photo of a pretty girl with a short skirt, heels and the face obscured as a hint as to what is going to happen to the male protagonist inside.

Do you enjoy hearing from readers?
Yes, I actively promote it and I reply to everyone as I love to engage with my readers and those who enjoy forced fem and FLRs. At least 80% of my readers are male and the others females and TVs. Very occassionally I find a connection with the lady or TV and become friends.

Which authors inspire you?
I don’t read any other authors in this genre. Whilst I like to write about female domination and male feminisation, I prefer to practise it rather than read about it or look at porn sites. I read a lot of non-fetish authors.

How much of your work is based on personal experience versus fantasy?
Around 70% is taken from the fetish element of my lifestyle or from the experiences of my friends in the FLR scene. I then ramp it up for the book and incorporate other ideas or things I’d love to do but circumstances prevent. Social boundaries and norms are such a bore.

Do you friends and family know that you are an erotic author? If so, how did they react when they found out?
Only the friends we’ve made in the FLR scene know I’m an erotic author. Our family and vanilla friends reactions would range from surprised, amused, through to horrified, especially by our behind closed doors lifestyle.

What mistakes have you made in your career?
Not realising that there was a big interest in this type of written erotica earlier despite the evidence of my blog hits. I didn’t put two and two together for a while.

What have been your personal triumphs?
I just enjoy receiving a great review or a lovely email from a reader to say how much they enjoyed a book.

What advice would you offer a writer who wants to embark or a successful erotica career?
The erotica book market is different to the vanilla market and you’ll need to publish regularly at first and be patient – things tend to pick up when you have a body of work, say 8 to 10 books. Books are generally much shorter than mainstream books and I would not use 50 Shades of Grey as a model as the readership is very different. You’ll need to be active on social media in some way even if you don’t have a blog.

4 thoughts on “Meet The Author: Alexa Martinez, aka Lady Alexa”

  1. I’ve read and enjoyed this author’s work, although, thanks to Amazon’s restrictions, I could not leave any review.
    I’ll always be grateful to Lady Alexa for drawing my attention to Fetlife. I joined the website and stayed for about three months, during which I posted many daring photographs and flash fiction. Unfortunately, on one occasion, I was almost caught by my significant other with pictures of me on screen en femme. When I had a second close call, I had to get rid of most of my stash.
    Lady Alexa will always hold a special place in my heart … and elsewhere.

    1. That moment when you pivot from the divine feminine energy and ecstasy to PANIC as someone is about to discover you takes years of your life. I have developed very cunning hiding places and now and also alone time to explore too.

        1. I may write a more full post about this to encourage more of us to share with people close to us. I have taken LOTS of risks and ahred my truth. So far I have been met, at worst, by mild indifference. More often though, interest and on some occocasions, it has resulted in wonderful intimate and playful experiences or relationships. I have found most people are not at all phased as we all have our kinks. Of course it’s always shared with care and respect.

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