An Interview with Julia G. Slater
Julia Guinevere Slater was born in the UK, to British and French parents, before moving to Prague in the Czech Republic in the 1990s. In her personal life, she has always shown a huge interest in female dominance and FLR, which she practices with her husband.
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Please meet the rather wonderful Julia G. Slater.
When did you start writing erotic books and what was your inspiration for it?
I used to write under another name on Literotica, many years ago, then stopped for a while. I think it was an outlet when I was single and unsure about my desires. When I eventually met my husband, that made me realise that my desires were not unusual. Sexually, I’ve always been dominant, and never cowtowed to the whole alpha-male thing. I know so many women who said they wanted tough men, then ended up paying for it. The more I realised my dominance, the more I wanted to know more about it, so that was my biggest inspiration.
What was the first book that you wrote?
Training Joe – and you can see it in the writing style, it definitely needs an update! At the time, I was new to Prague and wanted to use it to write something. I remember I was out with a group of colleagues in a previous company, and one was this really Christian American. He was so vocal on his view of right and wrong that it frustrated me. It bothered me that he was essentially telling me, and the Czech colleagues, how to behave. So, I wrote Training Joe to show the negative impact religion can have on lives.
Why did you decide to become an author?
I’ve always been creative but I lacked confidence. It was my partner who pushed me to get my ideas out there, rather than keep them for myself. I also like finding people who share my passion and my fantasies. A DJ friend once told me – don’t play for the crowd, play for yourself and your crowd will find you.
What are three of your favourite words
That’s tough… The easy answer would be Sissy, Domination, Submission. But there are so many more. I like the word cuckold.
What has been the high point of your career?
Every new day is the high point in my writing career. As my follower-base grows, so does my writing career. In my normal career, that was when I was promoted to COO. I think as a woman, that was validation for what I had been fighting for.
What are your favourite stories to write? Your most exciting scenarios?
Honestly, on a normal day, my favourite stories to write are ones where a normal wife becomes dominant and wants to transform her husband. Ones where I can take from reality, to an extent. I like the slow-burn, the build-up, the moment both learn that life is about to change for them. I love describing the fear in men as they become sissified bi cuckolds. It’s almost never a fear of the wife, but rather a fear in themselves, that they know they are going to like it far more than they have been conditioned to allow. Straight men struggle with bisexuality so much, much more than women do, so it is conventionally not okay to use male-on-male sex as a fantasy for heterosexual erotica, not like female-on-female. And yet it is a fact that at some point in their lives, men will have a homoerotic fantasy, that they will suppress inside them as much as possible. I love seeing two men together. I think it is the height of sexuality, but thanks to society, I can use it as a BDSM scenario.
Who do you think are your biggest fans, your core readership? How would you describe them?
I honestly don’t know. I know I have a lot of transgender fans, but I do have some female supporters too. I think most of my readers are husbands and men who live the fantasy in their heads and want some form of validation for their desires but don’t dare to live them.
What makes your heart race as a reader, and also a writer?
As a reader, I can’t stand books that jump straight into it. I need to feel a connection, I need build-up, backstory. I want to see the love at the beginning, otherwise, it is all just abuse. That’s not the core of BDSM.
As a writer, that depends on my mood. If I’m in a bad mood, then I write darker themes. I know that not everything I write is possible or what I want, but I want to push the boundaries in fantasy at least. Themes are drugs and such, I know I would never want to happen in real-life, but that isn’t what fantasy is about.
What is your favorite book that you have written?
Personal Assistance. Whilst a work of fiction, it takes a lot of what was real in my life. The abusive ex, the way my career took off, and finding a partner who really validated my desires. Sure, he didn’t really teach me or introduce me to BDSM and femdom, but he did make me want to take it public.
What is your best selling book, and do you know why it sells so well?
Right now – Tokyo Sissy, and I think that is because of the strong female character. Remember Basic Instinct? The character of Catherine was evil, that was clear, but through that darkness, there was a clear connection between her and Douglas’ character. But she was dark, she was powerful, intelligent, and sinister, but that just made her more desirable. That was what I was going for in Tokyo Sissy, and I think I got it right, to an extent.
How do you keep your ideas and stories fresh?
I listen. I have a group of friends in the scene, go to munches in Prague, and try to listen to ideas or events. These give me inspirations.
Do you have a writing routine?
Not really. I’m very busy with work and I travel a lot. Then there is family-life, so I find I write when I find a moment, which lately, is not often enough.
What’s the secret to a strong title and great cover art?
Good question, and if you know the answer, tell me! At first, I didn’t really give it much thought. I used what Kindle provided. Then as AI came about, I realised I could maybe improve what I did somewhat. The inputs I give are based on what I’m trying to present, be it the strong female lead, or the resulting sissy. Something that grabs attention and makes others want to know what is going on. I use pink, obviously, in my sissification titles. For the other titles, lesbian stuff, etc, I try to distance the colour scheme from pink.
Do you enjoy hearing from readers?
Yes I do because I want to know that I’m not alone in my thoughts. It also helps me grow and improve. I know I may have a lot of typos. That’s usually because I have barely moments to write and just want to get it out there. If I had more time, I’d spend more time reviewing, but I don’t. So, what I usually do is write, publish, then read after and correct. However, if readers let me know, it’s a big help too.
Which authors inspire you?
In the BDSM/Femdom space, two authors were my staple go-to. Ann Michelle (obviously) because she captures the whole sexual tension in the sissification space so beautifully. Sara Desmarais wrote beautiful books which I felt beautifully captured not only the sissy mindset, but that of the wife too. Unfortunately, I believe Sara no longer writes, which is a shame.
For cuckolding – Tinto Selvaggio is my go-to. That is the slow-burn build-up style I mentioned. I just wish there was more sissification in his stuff, but on the whole, I love how the worlds come together, and I really like the character of Richmond. He’s very relatable to a former lover of mine.
How much of your work is based on personal experience versus fantasy?
Most is fantasy. Where some personal experience is involved, or a connection to someone involved, then I try to mention it at the beginning. Cuckolding a Loser Slave is based on the experience of a close friend of mine. I remember she was very scared about how her husband wanted to be treated when he found out she had been cheating, so I had to explain the difference between abuse and BDSM. I’ll admit, I was a bit of a puppet-mistress in that relationship though…
Do you friends and family know that you are an erotic author? If so, how did they react when they found out?
Family, yes, and of course, they know what about. Friends outside of BDSM yes, some know about the BDSM stuff, some just assume 50 Shades shit. No-one cares, they think it’s cool that I write. In my work though, that’s difficult. I work for a fairly large multinational, in a C-level position, so obviously, all my kink came out in the due-diligence. I had to make certain promises, especially about using a pseudonym, obviously, but also not being too public in my lifestyle. I used to walk my husband on a leash in public, but I can’t do that anymore. It also means that I limit my exposure as much as possible. I opened the instagram account, sure, but I try to keep thinks fairly tasteful even there. I’m not ashamed of my life, and thankfully, my employer is modern and not ashamed either.
What mistakes have you made in your career?
In my writing career – too many to remember. The biggest was waiting so long to publish my first novel. I should have bitten that bullet a while ago, but anxiety got the better of me.
What have been your personal triumphs?
I started out life as a developer, coding. Like it or not, it is still a male-dominated world, but thankfully, mainly geeks like me, which meant my gender didn’t matter. But I always aimed for greater things, and being able to present my successes and ask for promotion and raises is something many women struggle with. I got where I am for two reasons. One, I saw opportunity to help someone, personally, and that helped me (Personal Assistance), and then two, and more importantly, I would march into my bosses office and say, “I deserve a promotion and here is why…” Many women, and men, struggle to do that. Sometimes, you have to ask for something, and I can tell you, I always got it.
In the writing world, I don’t think I’m there yet. This…getting recognised and interviewed, I take as a win. It is the first step in getting recognition, and I feel it is truly an honour that you reached out to me.
What advice would you offer a writer who wants to embark or a successful erotica career?
Write from your heart. Write for you, and your audience will find out. Don’t be afraid of your desires, put them on paper and get them out there. Oh, and formatting. For the love of god, please format your books! I can’t read unjustified pages, for example. It drives me mad.
What advice would you offer a fledgling sissy who wants to connect with others?
I don’t know if I am the right one to answer that. I think it depends where you are in the world. Munches are the best place. I think the internet is too risky, online dating for BDSM is always going to be challenging and carry risk. My best advice is to go to BDSM events and build-up a support group. Never be afraid to go to a munch in your kinkiest outfit – nobody will ever judge you.
Final two questions, what is your all time favourite sexy outfit?
I have a white latex mini-dress which isn’t tight. It’s an A-line babydoll halterneck dress which styled right can be kinky or can even be worn to work. I love it. It gets men looking every single time.
And what is your absolutely favourite thing to wear (can include makeup, wigs, nails, shoes etc. as well as clothes of course)?
Shoes – Louboutin all the way, and I’ll tell you why. His stuff is mega-sexy, sure, but I don’t think I’ve owned shoes that last like his stuff. Heck, if I scuff them, or they wear down, they send them off to a shoe-spa and boom, like new again!
But, on my husband? I love to see him in pink satin and white lace. Sissy dresses – the shorter the better, that’s what I love on him.
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I live for all things feminine—stockings, heels, scarlet nails, and above all, the intoxicating touch of another woman. A translesbian muse and unapologetic hedonist, I share my most divine and wicked misadventures in words and now as a podcaster too. All gurls welcome. You are gorgeous. Just like me. xxx
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